So, I think I have time for one more blog before the end of the year – but it’s not ending on a light note.
This weekend we held a Julefrokost for 6 guests (the 7th one pulled out just before we ate). A lot of time, expense and effort went into the night. It was well planned in advance, the apartment was re-organised, I trudged my way through stupid weather to get extra utilities from IKEA, food and drink prepared, music playlist and hyggelig ambience created etc…. And for what???
For the first hour before eating the language spoken was – Danish. Throughout the meal, the language spoken was – Danish. I sat there incredulously and wondered how rude people can be to their hosts! Leaving the room for a while, just to get away and take out my anger on the dirty dishes gave me time to cool down. Both my partner and I were sorely (and quietly) disappointed with the guests and agreed that we are never hosting an event with those guests again. I feel that I am better off sticking to international friends and distancing myself more and more from Danish society. I am tired of trying and it shouldn’t be that hard to maintain decent friendships.
I started this whole blog site trying to be balanced and not turn it into another site condemning Danes to hell, but think I am becoming more and more prepared now to air my opinions and stick 2 fingers up to anyone who is offended. I don’t need my life to be any harder than it already is and if I isolate myself from anyone after this post – so be it.
It is hard enough to try and work through learning a foreign language on your own. But when supposed friends act the way this lot did then the motivation to continue learning the language goes severely out of the window. I now have to drag my lip of the floor and find that motivation again.
After the initial rude behaviour and when all reverted to English, I was able to see the night through – just about. But it didn’t take away the anger and disappointment of the earlier part of the night, hence this blog. My coping strategy for events like this are to just drink heavily – it takes the edge off. This is not the ideal/best way to have a fun, entertaining evening and no one should feel the need to have to do this, just to get through an event. I would be mortified if I knew anyone who had to use this strategy, particularly if it was because of my actions.
I guess I am tired of bashing my head against walls here, and fed up with having to drink lots and talk bullshit. Whatever happened to being civilized, showing a little more respect to your hosts and talking properly around the table to each other?